A brutally honest response to “dear people who live in fancy tiny houses”

I’m sure most tiny home enthusiasts have stumbled across this viral blog post. If not, you can read it here:  “Dear People Who Live in Fancy Tiny Houses”.

Dear Lauren,

I know this article was written in a humorous fashion. I’m not going to attack you or tell you to pull your head out of your ass, like some of the comments. The majority of the questions you bring up jokingly are what many people inquire about on a regular basis. They are worth answering, so I will try my best to do so.

The truth is that living off grid is not glamorous. It is not the lavish lifestyle that mainstream media plays it up to be. Our homes aren’t as meticulous as the magazine spreads because we live in them and actually pull things out of the cupboards. We track in dirt and make messes just like everyone else. The disarray can magnified in such a small space. On the bright side, a deep clean of our home can be completed in an hour or less.

Messy lived in tiny house
A lived in tiny home. Photo credit: www.tinyhousefamilies.com/blog/

A $300 000+ house isn’t a solution to the “fart conundrum” that you speak of. No matter how big your home is, you will still be going to bed with your partner. And, if you have a relationship like many of us, you can expect to hear a fart rip and have a blanket pulled over your head.

Living in a space with limited square footage has its benefits. It pushes you to go outside and spend time with nature. It also strongly encourages you to do activities with friends, rather than a casual sit down get together. Most people tend to go through the same motions, in the same places, day after day. Living tiny is a break from that lifestyle.

This modern movement has more focus on living differently than living in a trendy space. And yes, sometimes people do get into if for the wrong reasons (their discarded homes can be bought online for a fraction of the price). The heart of this movement is about embracing what our fellow humans around the world live with. It is also about throwing away some of the privilege we have as North Americans. The houses we live in, big or small, still lead us to have incredibly fortunate lives.

Straw home Clay home

Access to food, clean water, and shelter are basic human rights. A huge portion of people on this planet do not have all three. Societies across the world live in homes made from clay, cob, animal dung, foraged leaves, bamboo etc. Multiple generations can live in these simple one room structures. Many people defecate directly in the forest, into pits in the ground, or even on the streets. The attitude in popular culture is that this is not a way for “civilized” people to live. It dismisses the reality that so many of our fellow humans live and raise their children in.

Mexico clay home India slum

If we are to associate this way of life as being ridiculous or disgusting, we are inadvertently pushing a class system. Implying that this lifestyle is unacceptable, is to look down at those all around us who have less.

The modest off grid and tiny home dwellers that I have met, choose to take what they need and leave the rest. Tiny homes are removing the stigma and questioning what living comfortably is expected to look like. When I am asked questions like, “what is going to happen if your partner rips a big fart?” or “how are you going to survive living in such close proximity to another person?” my answer is:

“I am going to do what the rest of the world does. I am going to deal with it.”


10 thoughts on “A brutally honest response to “dear people who live in fancy tiny houses”

  1. terrabluteams Reply

    Well said. Your response is very similar to those I give all the tiny house “wannabe’s” that are in the movement only for its popularity/fame. I was an artist who lived in a warehouse loft I finished out 40 years ago and as the “loft lifestyle” became popular, it ruined it for most of us artists. Gentrification of crumbling urban areas may be appealing to yuppie professionals, however, it often drives out diverse cultures and groups to the next affordable area. I chose to design/build/dwell in my Silver Bullet Tiny House because I wanted to live with intent and be responsible in at least these five areas consistently: environmentally, socially, culturally, economically and spiritually (and I do not mean religious). In my tiny house I am never farther than 5 feet from nature.
    Kudos to you for speaking from your heart. Thank you.

    1. livingtinycanada Reply

      Thanks for sharing. I’m glad you liked the article.

      Gentrification is rapidly becoming a bigger and bigger issue in our city. It’s been pushing people onto the streets. There is a lot of “revitalization” going on here. Now that you mention it, I can see it happening on a much larger scale.

      P.S. the bullets are the best.

  2. Nicole Reply

    Great post. I agree completely.

    1. livingtinycanada Reply

      Thanks for reading, Nicole. 🙂

  3. Belafonteonwheels Reply

    Thank you for writing this:) living small has challenges but really there nothing compared to how a lot of people live. I hate being frowned on by how I live- and also the obvious fact that you don’t need a half million dollar home to be happy/ really pists people off who have already invested and are knee deep in mortgages. Time to think and live outside the box:)

    1. livingtinycanada Reply

      Yea, lets just be glad we don’t have mortgages. It’s totally worth pooping in a bucket. 🙂 Thanks for the read.

  4. Deborah Reed Reply

    Loved your article…from the heart. Honest, real and it all still sounds like a good life to me! We need to downsize in our home, entertainment (not from nature), shopping, material things, electronics, jobs and junk! Love your insight and not unreal hype like some others! Thanks again. P.S. our ultimate tiny house relocation will be in northern CO. one day!

    1. livingtinycanada Reply

      Thanks for the read! Best wishes in your future plans. 🙂

  5. Gayle Stone Reply

    Brilliant, straightforward response. I wouldn’t say it was brutally honest, though. Honest, absolutely, and thoughtful, but no anger or brutality. Kudos to you.

    1. livingtinycanada Reply

      Thanks for the read Gayle! 🙂

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